सामाजिक समरसता


अगर आज का भारत गाँधी जी जहाँ कही होंगे अगर देख रहे होंगे तो यह सोच के रो रहे होंगे क्या मैंने इसी भारत की तस्वीर देखी थी। अगर यही होना था तो क्यों ना अखंड भारत का सपना देखा।

दादरी उत्तर प्रदेश, मालदा पश्चिम बंगाल, पूर्णिया बिहार, फतेहपुर उत्तर प्रदेश, हरदा मध्य प्रदेश में अगर होने वाली घटनाओं का विश्लेषण किया जाये तो पता चलता है हम कितने असहिष्णु हो गए है। कहा गयी वो सामाजिक समरसता जब हमें अपने बचपन में कभी यह पता नहीं चला की हम कहाँ है और किसके साथ है। कभी हमारी माओं ने ये चिंता नहीं की, शाम हो गयी है मेरा बेटा कहाँ है और खाया या नहीं। लेकिन आज माओं को इस चिंता के बजाये इस बात की चिंता होती है की क्या हुआ होगा वो सही सलामत तो होगा, क्यों क्योंकि आज हमे अपने पड़ोसियों तक पर भरोसा नहीं रहा। क्योंकि हमारी वो जो आपस की एक अनजान डोरी हुआ करती थी जो हमे आपस में एक दूसरे से बांधे रखती थी वो कही टूटती सी नजर आती है। लेकिन मैं कहूँगा नहीं, ये हमारी सामाजिक समरसता आज भी है जो एक हिन्दू बेटी की शादी में एक मुस्लिम परिवार का कोई युवा अपना योगदान देता नजर आता है और कोई मुस्लिम परिवार की बेटी की शादी में हिन्दू युवा अपना योगदान देता नजर आता है। तो आखिर ऐसा क्यों है की वह अनजान धागा टूटता नजर आता है। ये सिर्फ और सिर्फ हमारे राजनितिक आकाओं की उपज है। क्यों, क्योंकि वे ये नहीं चाहते है की हम एक रहे क्योंकि इससे उनकी दूकान बंद होने का खतरा है।

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For loving father


Some word for loving father

If you honour your father and mother, “you will live a long life, full of blessing.” And now a word to you fathers. Fathers are the biggest source of strength for a child for me as well even today.The innocent eyes of a child perceive father as the all-powerful, most knowledge, truly affectionate and the most important person in the family. For daughters, fathers are the first men they adore and fall in love with.While for sons their fathers are the strongest person they know and someone they aspire to emulate.Even for the grownups fathers are someone whom they look up to for the most experienced and honest advice that is always in the best of their son.For this great figure in our life that we know as father.

Say Thanks to Dad
Children blessed with a loving father should consider themselves fortunate. For, they have someone to take care of their needs and interests. Someone to stop them when they are diverting to a wrong path and guide them on a road to success and virtue. For many of us fathers have always been there to solve our innumerous mathematics and science problems and explain the same formula hundredth time or better still until it is understood by us. Fathers would never ever give a smallest of hint to let us know how hard they work to take care of our needs and fulfill our demands… For all their adorable scolding and affectionate punishments we all owe a big thanks to our Dads.

Apologize to Dad
Father’s Day also brings with it the wonderful opportunity to apologize for all our rude and insensitive behavior. We as children often take the love and affection of our parents for granted and treat them with outright contempt. We need to apologize. We must feel great to have the presence of loving father in our lives and do not disrespect the blessing of God on us. On Father’s Day we must says “Sorry” to our Dad and seek their forgiveness for our wrong behavior.”Spcially I want to say my dad for my rude behavior at childhood time.

Celebrate the big Day with Dad
We must make all efforts to celebrate Father’s Day with our Dad. Children staying away from father must especially strive to spend the day with father and show gratitude for all their support and love.We must pamper father by spending the day in a manner he likes most. We can also express love with thoughtful gifts accompanied by a bouquet of his favorite flowers. The idea is to show our affection and tell Daddy how much he is loved and appreciated not just on Father’s Day but every single day of our lives.

Confusion about Before Marrieage & After Marriage…


Before Marriage – – –

Boy: Yes. At last. It was so hard to wait.

Girl: Do you want me to leave?

Boy: NO! Don’t even think about it.

Girl: Do you love me?

Boy: Of course! Over and over!

Girl: Have you ever cheated on me?

Boy: NO! Why are you even asking?

Girl: Will you kiss me?

Boy: Every chance I get!

Girl: Will you hit me?

Boy: Are you crazy! I’m not that kind of person!

Girl: Can I trust you?

Boy: Yes.

Girl: Darling!

After marriage – – –

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Are you a father?


You are a father. It looks like such a simple sentence. But your new role is actually profound; one you are a father, you can never be “not-a-father” anymore. By becoming a father, you’ve embarked on an amazing and fulfilling journey, powerful from the moment of birth.
The day you bring your newborn or your adopted back home with you is exciting and overwhelming. It’s a cliché, but your life will never be the same. Even if this is not your first child, he is different from your others and you are different than you were before. Heck, my identical twins were born 14 minutes apart; they are markedly different from one other, as is my relationship with each of them. Each father-child bond is unique and continually evolving.

The child is not the only one being influenced here. As James Joyce once said, “People talk of my influence on my daughter, but what about her influence on me?”

No one has ever been so completely dependent on you as this baby. It feels wonderful to be so needed, but also a bit scary. Fortunately, you have more resources at your disposal than you may think (for example, Dsds & Daughters).

That said, I think every prospective parent should watch the movie Parenthood before getting pregnant. The film could easily be called Fatherhood, since the main character is a dad. That movie makes clear some central truths about fathering:

– It is like a roller coaster.
– You can’t know for sure how your actions will affect your children.
– You can guarantee that your actions do affect your children.

My favorite line from Parenthood is when Keanu Reeves’ character Tod says, “You need a license to buy a dog or drive a car. Hell, you even need a license to catch a fish. But they’ll let any [expletive deleted] a**hole be a father.”

With a bit of earthy humor (the kind guys like, right?), Tod explains the biggest dilemma a new father faces: No one trained me for this job. The child doesn’t come with an operator’s manual, plug-and-play attachments, or downloadable upgrades.

Despite this, dads today have more freedom than ever to take “nontraditional” approaches to fathering. Many men take time away from their careers to stay home with the baby while their partners return to the workplace. Other men work part-time or telecommute so they can commune with baby every possible moment. Some men even teach Head Start and early childhood parent education classes!

In other words, you don’t have to father the same way your father or grandfather did. You can be your own kind of Dad. That opportunity is liberating and exciting, but can also be disconcerting. After all, it’s harder to find examples to follow when you’re doing things in a new way.

But did you know that nature provides tools that you may not yet be conscious of? For example, from the moment of birth, you and your baby can instinctively communicate with each other, even though it’ll be a year or more before she uses words.

A pioneering pediatric psychologist, the late Dr. Lee Salk (brother of Jonas, creator of the polio vaccine) urged parents to trust this kind of natural connection. As a new dad, I took comfort and confidence from Salk’s What Every Child Would Like His Parents to Know (Warner, 1973-now out-of-print).

In a refreshing departure for a parenting author, Salk argued that we shouldn’t worry so much about what the latest parenting book says. His book wisely encouraged me to trust my heart along with my baby’s sounds and body. If I “tuned in” to my deep fathering instincts, and the signals my infants “broadcast,” I’d have most of what I’d need to be a good father. As fathering expert Will Glennon says, “The key is to father from the heart.”

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Listen your Inner Guide


Each of us has had this experience: we knew something was going to turn out a certain way, but we didn’t listen to that gut instinct and it cost us. Maybe we missed out on an opportunity, or we had to dig ourselves out of some kind of mess. But we’ve all done it.
The other day I caught myself ignoring my inner guidance. I didn’t quite catch it as early as I’d have liked, however. I spent an entire weekend working on a series of articles for a website. Somewhere inside I just knew it wasn’t the right kind of content. But I didn’t want to admit to myself that I was wasting my own time, so I kept trying to tweak the wording to force what I was writing into a better fit. I probably got a third of the way through what I was trying to accomplish when I couldn’t take it any more. I stopped myself (not easy!) and sent in what I had already written to the editor to check that I was going in the right direction. When I got his reply I “hid” from it for a little while, not wanting to even open it, because I already knew what it was going to say.

It was a frustrating little tug-o-war with my ego, but it was progress. At least I stopped, right? And it helped me to get more clarity on where I should have been going in the first place. After the fact, I do feel good about the experience. But, boy! It was excruciating witnessing myself struggle through it.

So who else is making progress out there? Are you someone who enjoys the learning process of self-help concepts and techniques, but who then looses steam when it comes to practicing what you’ve learned? It’s always fun to get a new book or DVD, or to attend a seminar and spend time thinking and talking about all of this stuff. But putting it into practice is a whole different ball game.

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