Is mind is everything?

Science and technology can only study and reveal how the brain functions; it is yet to find a way to plumb completely the mind that propels the thinking process. There can be no mind without body although mind does not have a physical form. Mind in a way is affected by external situations and circumstances like living conditions, the food one consumes, susceptibility to body’s demands like hunger, thirst, sleep and other physical needs. But the fact remains that the evolved mind can handle these demands or urges well. Immensity of this subtle, invisible, intangible force cannot be measured. Since mind does not have a gross or physical form, its run cannot be obstructed or restrained. It is said mind travels faster than light. Mind needs to be cultivated or charged to reach its potential power. Buddha said, “The mind is everything. What you think, you become.”

The mind can open up a spectrum of possibilities including inner wisdom, heighten awareness of being and relate to universal cosmic energy. But the same mind, by falling prey to substance abuse, lust and anger, could not only rob itself of its power of reasoning but also cause havoc with physical health. The mind could get trapped in the web of past and future, hardly ever stopping for the present. To become fully alive to the present moment and enter into an elevated state of awareness, the mind has to calm down as it is the seat of perception and interpretation.

One’s state of mind can be divided into pure and impure. When engrossed in worldly ways of material trappings and sexual desires, the mind could adversely affect the journey of life. Mind alone is the cause of liberation and bondage. According to Thakur Sri Ramakrishna, “By mind one is bound, by mind one is freed.” Mind has three dimensions: the subconscious, conscious and super conscious mind. When the conscious state of mind is regulated and undergoes upward evolution, one begins to tread the path towards the super conscious state. Abilities like Extra Sensory Perception, clairvoyance, and telepathy all arise out of sheer mind power. Hyper linking the conscious mind to the super conscious state of liberation leads one to freedom from all bondage.

The Supreme has co-opted humankind as co-creator by giving the human being a highly developed mind, which distinguishes the species from those of any other living entity of this world, whose mind and instincts function only for the basic need and survival. A mind tuned finely with the melody of the universal mind can alter and better the course of life. A mind that is full of positive thoughts will not give space for impure trends. This has to be a constant endeavor even for a mind that has tasted the essence of being because, deluded by objects of senses, it starts seeking illusory sensual pleasures.

Mind motivated by matter is ignorance. Controlling the mind is a lifelong process. The best way is to make your mind your best friend, so that you are able to work in tandem to discover the own natural state. One should meditate on the mind as Brahmn, for all objects are perceived by mind.

Happiness Forever

                           Don’t worry, be Happy! What a refreshing thought, indeed! Celebrations everyday! Life can be so joyful if we learn to celebrate even the smallest moments and events. Celebrate when someone says you are looking great or may be because your toddler called you ma for the first time. Always remember that it is the small acts of day-to- day life that count. And more important, that happiness is not as elusive as you think.
                           This year give wings to your imagination. Do the things you have always wanted to even if it means you must go out of your way to convince friends and family that you are choosing to settle for the odd and the unconventional. Remember, it’s not about what others think of you, but what you think of yourself. If it makes you happy, it’s gotta be right. Let every single moment be a celebration. Attract happiness do not allow anything dampen your spirits, it is really a matter of how you choose to be staying happy needs the determination to seek and chase it until it surrenders itself to you. After all, happiness is a state of mind where you can be what you care without bothering about what others think of you. All you need to do is change your outlook towards life.
                           Happiness is about being content in your personal and professional relationships. The best way is to get realistic targets for yourself and try your best variables. We become vulnerable to unhappiness. Smaller expectations make you happy. Ambitions should be set keeping in mind your ability. Be flexible and lower your expectations of necessary. You must be able to choose happiness over everything else. But how do we choose happiness? More than happiness. It’s the source of happiness which is important. Also you have to be able to distinguish between happiness and pleasure. Short-term gains often lead to long term unhappiness. We have to the clear about what we won’t.
                           It’s of to you to remain happy or stay in a state of gloom. The new year is the perfect time to tell yourself that you will be happy. It happiness forgets you a letter bit, never completely forget about it.

Time Management – I

Time Management (Part-I)

Can you see time, can you hear it, can you touch it, can you smell it and can you taste it? No way! Time is something beyond the realization of our senses. It has no form, no color no size and no physical shape. Birth of time is said to be with the big bang simply because we are unable to define or calculate it prior to this moment. Of- course, time existed even before the big bang. Nothing preceded time. How can we deny the existence of time just because we are unable to calculate or measure it?
The unique feature of time is its uniform speed. The speed of all other elements: sometimes slow, sometimes fast. However, the speed of time is uniform from the beginning to the end, if you don’t believe, ask your clock.
We cannot bottle time, we cannot store it in a cylinder, as we can do with oxygen, while climbing a mountain, we can store light and electricity in batteries, and we can keep liquid in bottle. We simply cannot store our time; we cannot put our excess time in our bank for future use. The fundamental principle of time is whatever is gone, is gone forever and it will never come.
Time is flawless it never drop or stop its flaw. If it is raining, water drops fall on Neem tree and become bitter. Water drops fall on sugarcane and become sweet. By dropping into the Ganges, it becomes Gangajal, by falling into the gutter it becomes mud, by falling on mountain it becomes Hill station, Now what is the real characteristics of water? Always matter the recipients.
We often say he is passing through a bad phase of time or his time is good. But is it time good or bad in fact? Is it not true that only circumstances are good or bad? In fact, time neither good nor bad. Only the results are good or bad. And results are the products of certain action or circumstances; several circumstances produce a result together.
We must realize that circumstances produce events and if we want to control the events we will have to control the circumstances we also must realize that to a large extent our actions determine our circumstances or conditions. If we control and carefully choose our actions, our circumstances will automatically favoring us.
It is silly to blame the time. Look for the cause, look at the circumstances. Try to understand them. Then find ways and means of reacting our goals by analyzing the circumstances.
Time makes a big contribution in our making. The stammering of a child sound sweat to us. When a child walks staggeringly, we make a big think of it and start clapping. But if the same child walks staggering after ten years, will we appreciate it. The answer is self-evident. The reason is because now he is ten years old. What do we mean by ten years? It indicates a span of time.
Time exists; that’s why we exist. In our daily life we don’t realize its true existence, however the truth is that a minute can change our destiny. Minutes are important not only in the preparation of native charts, but also building our life. If we take care of minutes, hours will take care of ourselves. Treat every minute as a brick, with which we build the castle of our dream.
At times we hear this complain that in winter days become short. Do we find the above statement true? Yes, if by day we mean the duration from sunrise to sunset. But if by day we mean Monday to Sunday, than this sentence is incorrect. A daily still carries 24 hours. What has changed is this that the sun is rising one and a half hours late and it is setting one & half hours earlier compared to the summer. If the sunrise and sunset determine the activities of our life, winter days would be naturally tough on us. However this should not happen our clocks or watches should determine our activities.
Time is divided into small chunks, for example morning, noon, evening, day, night, week, month, year etc. To know this is very important because we often think that if we have waste a piece of time, we needn’t worry as others chunks of time are safely available there. It is not true. Be assured that if we have lost a little chunk of time, we cannot imagine how it will adversely affect the forthcoming events, every event has a chain reaction. That is, if one link of a chain is weak while hundred other links are strong, this one weak link will make the whole chain weak.
When we are sad we feel as if time has stretched. We find it difficult to pass time. When we are unhappy, the night seems to be unduly long, as if it never and when we are happy time seems to pass quickly it seems as if its feet have turned into wings & it flies. We are unable to hold it. Lovers find the moments of waiting very long, every minute is equivalent to one hours. But when the waiting time ends, the parameters of time get reversed. Than every hour seems to be equivalent to minutes.
Nature has fitted an automated clock in our mind. Though we are unaware of its existence, it keeps on ticking. There are two types of people one is having less work and another is heavy work and called a workaholics. Workaholics believe in work like 24×7 days. If you want to do more better work. It is not necessary for you to work for 16 to 24 hours. After doing this you feel tired, creative ideas would not come in your mind, your mind will stop working properly, you will feel sleepy, you will spoil relationships. This is the price, which every workaholic will pay, working for longer hours are not important.
It is more important that your working hours should be solid and compact. If you have fully utilized your day, you need not burn the midnight. Whenever we try to manage anything we tend to become tense. If we try to manage our breathing, how tense we will be! Because breathing is natural and effortless. It is an automatic activity for which we do not have to think at all. In order to avoid tension, we have to make our time management as natural as effortless and automatic as our breathing. We should not try to manage the time; we should always try to manage ourselves in such a fashion that our time is automatically managed. It is our altitude that makes difference everything.
Once Mr. Rajiv Gandhi said that ‘The question is not how much time you are spending. The question is how you spend it.’ So quality always matters. This is called the compactness of time.
It is not easy to close the ‘Time Management’ as so simple looks like above but we all people have to work over it to utilize the maximum of our time frame from daily life. So I have tried lot to close it but I don’t think it could be close now. So I have decided that whatever I have in my mind about this topic I will share to my reader.

Next part of this topic will publish very soon…………………………..

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For loving father

Some word for loving father

If you honour your father and mother, “you will live a long life, full of blessing.” And now a word to you fathers. Fathers are the biggest source of strength for a child for me as well even today.The innocent eyes of a child perceive father as the all-powerful, most knowledge, truly affectionate and the most important person in the family. For daughters, fathers are the first men they adore and fall in love with.While for sons their fathers are the strongest person they know and someone they aspire to emulate.Even for the grownups fathers are someone whom they look up to for the most experienced and honest advice that is always in the best of their son.For this great figure in our life that we know as father.

Say Thanks to Dad
Children blessed with a loving father should consider themselves fortunate. For, they have someone to take care of their needs and interests. Someone to stop them when they are diverting to a wrong path and guide them on a road to success and virtue. For many of us fathers have always been there to solve our innumerous mathematics and science problems and explain the same formula hundredth time or better still until it is understood by us. Fathers would never ever give a smallest of hint to let us know how hard they work to take care of our needs and fulfill our demands… For all their adorable scolding and affectionate punishments we all owe a big thanks to our Dads.

Apologize to Dad
Father’s Day also brings with it the wonderful opportunity to apologize for all our rude and insensitive behavior. We as children often take the love and affection of our parents for granted and treat them with outright contempt. We need to apologize. We must feel great to have the presence of loving father in our lives and do not disrespect the blessing of God on us. On Father’s Day we must says “Sorry” to our Dad and seek their forgiveness for our wrong behavior.”Spcially I want to say my dad for my rude behavior at childhood time.“

Celebrate the big Day with Dad
We must make all efforts to celebrate Father’s Day with our Dad. Children staying away from father must especially strive to spend the day with father and show gratitude for all their support and love.We must pamper father by spending the day in a manner he likes most. We can also express love with thoughtful gifts accompanied by a bouquet of his favorite flowers. The idea is to show our affection and tell Daddy how much he is loved and appreciated not just on Father’s Day but every single day of our lives.

Are you a father?

You are a father. It looks like such a simple sentence. But your new role is actually profound; one you are a father, you can never be “not-a-father” anymore. By becoming a father, you’ve embarked on an amazing and fulfilling journey, powerful from the moment of birth.
The day you bring your newborn or your adopted back home with you is exciting and overwhelming. It’s a cliché, but your life will never be the same. Even if this is not your first child, he is different from your others and you are different than you were before. Heck, my identical twins were born 14 minutes apart; they are markedly different from one other, as is my relationship with each of them. Each father-child bond is unique and continually evolving.

The child is not the only one being influenced here. As James Joyce once said, “People talk of my influence on my daughter, but what about her influence on me?”

No one has ever been so completely dependent on you as this baby. It feels wonderful to be so needed, but also a bit scary. Fortunately, you have more resources at your disposal than you may think (for example, Dsds & Daughters).

That said, I think every prospective parent should watch the movie Parenthood before getting pregnant. The film could easily be called Fatherhood, since the main character is a dad. That movie makes clear some central truths about fathering:

- It is like a roller coaster.
- You can’t know for sure how your actions will affect your children.
- You can guarantee that your actions do affect your children.

My favorite line from Parenthood is when Keanu Reeves’ character Tod says, “You need a license to buy a dog or drive a car. Hell, you even need a license to catch a fish. But they’ll let any [expletive deleted] a**hole be a father.”

With a bit of earthy humor (the kind guys like, right?), Tod explains the biggest dilemma a new father faces: No one trained me for this job. The child doesn’t come with an operator’s manual, plug-and-play attachments, or downloadable upgrades.

Despite this, dads today have more freedom than ever to take “nontraditional” approaches to fathering. Many men take time away from their careers to stay home with the baby while their partners return to the workplace. Other men work part-time or telecommute so they can commune with baby every possible moment. Some men even teach Head Start and early childhood parent education classes!

In other words, you don’t have to father the same way your father or grandfather did. You can be your own kind of Dad. That opportunity is liberating and exciting, but can also be disconcerting. After all, it’s harder to find examples to follow when you’re doing things in a new way.

But did you know that nature provides tools that you may not yet be conscious of? For example, from the moment of birth, you and your baby can instinctively communicate with each other, even though it’ll be a year or more before she uses words.

A pioneering pediatric psychologist, the late Dr. Lee Salk (brother of Jonas, creator of the polio vaccine) urged parents to trust this kind of natural connection. As a new dad, I took comfort and confidence from Salk’s What Every Child Would Like His Parents to Know (Warner, 1973-now out-of-print).

In a refreshing departure for a parenting author, Salk argued that we shouldn’t worry so much about what the latest parenting book says. His book wisely encouraged me to trust my heart along with my baby’s sounds and body. If I “tuned in” to my deep fathering instincts, and the signals my infants “broadcast,” I’d have most of what I’d need to be a good father. As fathering expert Will Glennon says, “The key is to father from the heart.”

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